I sometimes feel as though I am a relationship moron so I really need some relationship advice here. As an adult I really haven’t done much dating. Yes, I have dated a few people after my marriage ended but, until now there was nothing really serious.

Now that has changed and I really don’t know how to handle the situation. In all of my previous relationships I never thought of meeting my partners family and they never asked to meet mine. Now, I am in a situation where I have been dating / in a relationship with someone for almost 2 years we started off casually and it has turned more serious. He has a very large family & I do not. I have not met his family yet and he is getting angry & adament about it.

I have put off meeting his family for a few reasons but, the main ones are:

• I am akward & have severe anxiety about meeting new people.
• I feel that if his Mother dislikes me then he will end the relationship (I was told this has happened previously).
• If I become involved with his family I will become attached. Then when things end (I don’t see marriage or super long term) I will feel as though I lost a family yet again.
• I will not be able to be friends with his family after a break up no matter what because that will just hurt too much.

Am I just being irrational? I just need other people’s thoughts on this. I may be great about giving other people relationship advice but, I really suck at figuring out my own relationships.