Over the past week Kidlet’s attitude problem along with her PMS has gotten worse. She is arguing me at every turn I swear but, it’s not over chores or bedtime or stuff like that. It’s when we are out in public and she does something that she isn’t supposed to do or just plain doesn’t listen to me. I just look at her and tell her what she did that wasn’t appropriate and then she starts to argue about it. When I tell her that I’m not going to argue with her and that if she continues to argue and not listen to me that there will be consequences (Early bedtime, no tv, no games etc). AND SHE STILL KEEPS IT UP!

It was so bad Wednesday that if I hadn’t been in line at the store with things that I HAD to buy that night I would have left the store completely. I told her that when she got home she was going to go to bed, then comes the “Well, I have to take a shower tonight” with the eye rolling and smart ass attitude. I just looked at her and said fine you have 10 minutes to take a shower and then go to bed when we get home.

After we got home, I brought her into the kitchen (as we had K’s 5 year old daughter at our house) and just said look, you have had an attitude and have been mouthing off a lot lately to myself, my Mom & her babysitter and that it needs to stop. Kidlet immediately gets upset and starts crying, telling me that she doesn’t mean to get an attitude that she just gets frustrated and mad. I told her that she needs to start talking to me when she gets like that so that all of a sudden seemingly out of nowhere comes this attitude that I gets me super pissed. She told me that she would try to talk to me and not turn into a raging bitch (my words not hers lol).

Fast forward to last night. I was at work while she was with the babysitter and I get a call that she is starting her crap again. Kidlet started mouthing off and got sent to her room … on her way there stomping all the way she mutters under her breath that the babysitter was lazy. The babysitter looked at her and said “I work 9 hours a day and come home and watch you for another 7 1/2 hours. When I want to relax for a few minutes after I get home you immediately start with the attitude and I am not putting up with it. Go to your room and stay there until I call you.” Kidlet being a piece of work responds with “Well, what am I supposed to do there is nothing in there to do?” .. Hearing this from the sitter really made my blood boil. I told him I wanted to talk to her right away. Before she could even get on the phone I heard her crying. I really didn’t have to say much to her because she knew how pissed I was. She told me that she was sorry for getting an attitude and saying mean things and that we did have the same conversation the day before. She said that she didn’t mean to say what she did that she just got mad and mean stuff slipped out. (Oh, how I bit my tongue .. I wanted to remind her that is typical behavior that her father displays) I told her that she need to apologise for both things and that when she is mad at him that she just needs to say look I’m mad / frustrated right now I need to go in the other room and cool off then come back and pick up the conversation later.

This morning it was like she was her old self and nothing ever happened. She was always a good kid .. now it’s like someone dropped her evil clone off at my house. I get so frustrated with her but, I try to be calm when I talk to her and try to listen to what she has to say but, sometimes I have to just walk away because I just don’t know what to do or say to her. If she is like this now what am I going to do when she is actually a teenager http://sinful-love.org/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_cry.gif. Advice suggestions anything?